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  Sex And Love  
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  Compulsive Sex, Love & Porn Use  

The lack of ability to curb sexual behaviours can cause substantial distress to one’s emotional health and can have an adverse impact on close intimate relationships.

Sex addicts lack the ability to control or postpone sexual feelings and actions, with the need for arousal often replacing the need for intimacy. Eventually, thrill seeking becomes more important than family, career, even personal health and safety.

There is a ritual before leading to acting out on desires. Often the most pleasurable aspect of acting out sexually is in the preoccupation of the act: the planning, plotting and anticipation of the behavior. After that, the individual felt shame, despair, and confusion. The cycle repeats itself.

Addictive sexuality is like most other compulsive behaviors: a destructive twist on a normal life-enhancing activity. Defining sex addiction depends less on the behavior itself than on the person's motivation.

Love addicts go through life with desperate hopes and constant fears. Fearing rejection, pain, unfamiliar experiences, and having little faith in their ability or right to inspire love, they wait and wish for love, perhaps their least familiar real experience.

Signs of Love or Sex Addiction Include:

  • Constantly seeking a sexual partner or new romance 
  • An inability or difficulty in being alone
  • Consistently choosing partners who are abusive or emotionally unavailable
  • Using sex, seduction and intrigue to "hook" or hold onto a partner
  • Using sex or romantic intensity to tolerate difficult experiences or emotions
  • Missing out on important family, career or social experiences in order to maintain a sexual high or romantic relationship
  • When in a relationship, being detached or unhappy, when out of a relationship, feeling desperate and alone
  • Avoiding sex or relationships for long periods of time to "solve the problem".
  • An inability to leave unhealthy relationships despite repeated promises to self or others
  • Returning to previously unmanageable or painful relationships despite promises to self or others
  • Mistaking sexual experiences and romantic intensity for love

As Patrick Carnes states, “Contrary to enjoying sex as a self-affirming source of physical pleasure, the sex addict has learned to rely on sex for comfort from pain, for nurturing or relief from stress,” comparable to the alcoholic’s purposeful use of alcohol.

Individual Counselling Programme

SPLA (Sex Porn Love Addiction) Recovery Programme

The lack of ability to curb these behaviours can cause substantial distress to one’s emotional health and can have an adverse impact on close intimate relationships. At We Care, we aim to provide accessible and professional help for individuals and families struggling with various forms of addictions. We provide a safe environment for the individual and family to work on their issue and effect long-lasting change.

The SPLA (Sex Porn Love Addiction) Recovery Programme is a structured therapy programme designed for people with sex, pornography and love addictions. Counselling is provided by trained addiction specialists.

Basic programme components:

  • 6 individual sessions
  • 2 family sessions
  • 4 group sessions (optional)

Depending on needs, some clients may require further sessions after the initial phase of programme.

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To make an appointment, call 6547 5459 or email:

  Families in Recovery through Education and Empowerment  

FREE stands for Families in Recovery through Education and Empowerment. FREE is a workshop for the family members of addicted ones. 

Date: Every 2nd Monday of the Month except Public Holiday

Upcoming workshop: 11 Dec 2017

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  SMART Recovery  

SMART stands for Self-Management & Recovery Training. Participants learn tools for addiction recovery based on the latest scientific research and participate in a world-wide community which includes free, self-empowering, science-based mutual help groups. 

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