The lack of ability to curb sexual behaviours can cause substantial distress to one’s emotional health and can have an adverse impact on close intimate relationships.
Sex addicts lack the ability to control or postpone sexual feelings and actions, with the need for arousal often replacing the need for intimacy. Eventually, thrill-seeking becomes more important than family, career, even personal health and safety.
There is a ritual before leading to acting out on desires. Often the most pleasurable aspect of acting out sexually is in the preoccupation of the act: the planning, plotting and anticipation of the behaviour. After that, the individual feels shame, despair, and confusion. The cycle repeats itself.
Addictive sexuality is like most compulsive behaviour: a destructive twist on a normal life-enhancing activity. Defining sex addiction depends less on the behaviour itself than on the person's motivation.
Love addicts go through life with desperate hopes and constant fears. Fearing rejection, pain, unfamiliar experiences, and having little faith in their ability or right to inspire love, they wait and wish for love, perhaps their least familiar real experience.
Signs of Love or Sex Addiction Include:
As Patrick Carnes states, “Contrary to enjoying sex as a self-affirming source of physical pleasure, the sex addict has learned to rely on sex for comfort from pain, for nurturing or relief from stress,” comparable to the alcoholic’s purposeful use of alcohol.
Help & Treatment
You do not need to suffer from sex addiction to seek professional help. If you find yourself acting out sexually, seeking professional help early can help to reduce the harmful consequences
Screening - The aim of the initial session is to identify the presence of acting out and/or effect of negative consequences of acting out. Any other existing mental health conditions are screened for in order to provide a deeper understanding of the client.
Assessment - This is a comprehensive understanding of the severity and depth of the acting out in the context of the client life's situation. The individual's strengths, weaknesses, problems and needs are accounted in order to collaborate an effective solution. Potential risks are also discussed to integrate into the treatment planning.
Treatment Planning + Counselling - The treatment plan is tailored to the client's needs. Immediate and long-term goals are established. A discussion of WE CARE's holistic services is included in the treatment planning.
SPLA (Sex Porn Love Addiction) Recovery Programme
The SPLA (Sex Porn Love Addiction) Recovery Programme is a structured therapy programme designed for people with sex, pornography and love addictions. Counselling is provided by trained addiction specialists.
Basic programme components:
Depending on needs, some clients may require further sessions after the initial phase of the programme.
To find out more about our Sex, Love and Porn addiction counselling programme, click here.
SMART stands for Self-Management & Recovery Training. Participants learn tools for addiction recovery based on the latest scientific research and participate in a world-wide community which includes free, self-empowering, science-based mutual help groups.
SMART Recovery dates
Day: Every Thursday
Timing:230pm to 430pm
Venue: WE CARE, 11 Jalan Ubi
SMART is catered for individuals with a history of addictions. Interested participants are required to undergo a clincial intake before attending SMART Recovery.
If interested, register below or email email@example.com
Mindfulness For Recovery
Mindfulness for Recovery is an open group to learn and practice mindfulness. Mindful practice aims to help participants to break away from their own destructive habitual patterns. All facilitators have personal experience practising mindfulness.
This group is catered for people with a history of addictions, reactive behaviours and/or mood disorders
Every Friday, 630pm to 730pm
Venue: WE CARE Community Services
To register: call 6547 5459 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
Families in Recovery through Education and Empowerment
FREE stands for Families in Recovery through Education and Empowerment. FREE is a workshop for the family members of addicted ones.
Date: Every 2nd Monday of the Month except Public Holiday
Upcoming workshop: 11 June 2018
Timing: 7pm to 9pm
Venue: WE CARE
To sign up, call WE CARE at 6547-5459. No payment is required for this programme.