The lack of ability to curb sexual behaviours can cause substantial distress to one’s emotional health and can have an adverse impact on close intimate relationships.
Sex addicts lack the ability to control or postpone sexual feelings and actions, with the need for arousal often replacing the need for intimacy. Eventually, thrill-seeking becomes more important than family, career, even personal health and safety.
There is a ritual before leading to acting out on desires. Often the most pleasurable aspect of acting out sexually is in the preoccupation of the act: the planning, plotting and anticipation of the behaviour. After that, the individual feels shame, despair, and confusion. The cycle repeats itself.
Addictive sexuality is like most compulsive behaviour: a destructive twist on a normal life-enhancing activity. Defining sex addiction depends less on the behaviour itself than on the person's motivation.
Love addicts go through life with desperate hopes and constant fears. Fearing rejection, pain, unfamiliar experiences, and having little faith in their ability or right to inspire love, they wait and wish for love, perhaps their least familiar real experience.
Signs of Love or Sex Addiction Include:
As Patrick Carnes states, “Contrary to enjoying sex as a self-affirming source of physical pleasure, the sex addict has learned to rely on sex for comfort from pain, for nurturing or relief from stress,” comparable to the alcoholic’s purposeful use of alcohol.
Help & Treatment
You do not need to suffer from sex addiction to seek professional help. If you find yourself acting out sexually, seeking professional help early can help to reduce the harmful consequences
Screening - The aim of the initial session is to identify the presence of acting out and/or effect of negative consequences of acting out. Any other existing mental health conditions are screened for in order to provide a deeper understanding of the client.
Assessment - This is a comprehensive understanding of the severity and depth of the acting out in the context of the client life's situation. The individual's strengths, weaknesses, problems and needs are accounted in order to collaborate an effective solution. Potential risks are also discussed to integrate into the treatment planning.
Treatment Planning + Counselling - The treatment plan is tailored to the client's needs. Immediate and long-term goals are established. A discussion of WE CARE's holistic services is included in the treatment planning.
SPLA (Sex Porn Love Addiction) Recovery Programme
The SPLA (Sex Porn Love Addiction) Recovery Programme is a structured therapy programme designed for people with sex, pornography and love addictions. Counselling is provided by trained addiction specialists.
Basic programme components:
Depending on needs, some clients may require further sessions after the initial phase of the programme.
To find out more about our Sex, Love and Porn addiction counselling programme, click here.
WE CARE Community Services invites you and your fiends to come and be part of a unique and fun-filled team challenge across some of Singapore's iconic locations - and all for an excellent cause. Your participation in this urban adventure will help WE CARE raise funds to support families and those affected by drugs, alcohol, and other compulsive behaviors like gambling, gaming and shopping. This year's theme is 'Art-in-motion'. Bring your team spirit. Clear exciting art-based challenges to win points. Finish on time.
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Family & Friends Support Group *new*
WE CARE is starting a new ongoing support group called “Family and Friends Support Group”. This ongoing weekly group is conducted by WE CARE counsellors. It is meant for spouses, lovers, parent, lovers , children or friends affected by an addicted loved one.
"Family & Friends" teaches effective strategies for self care and coping with addiction. The support group focuses on changing the way you interact with the addicted loved one. "Family & Friends" is based on the CRAFT Model & SMART Recovery tools. We will touch on important topics that family members tend to experience, like
The goals for "Family & Friends" are
"Family & Friends" is scheduled on every Thursday, 7pm to 830pm, at WE CARE. The first session will start on 16 August 2018. This will replace the FREE workshop wef now.
If you are an affected family member or friend and you wish to attend "Family & Friends", contact Alex (6547 5459 or email@example.com) to register.
SMART stands for Self-Management & Recovery Training. Participants learn tools for addiction recovery based on the latest scientific research and participate in a world-wide community which includes free, self-empowering, science-based mutual help groups. All facilitators are registered SMART Recovery Facilitators.
SMART Recovery Details
Day: Every Thursday
Timing: 300pm to 430pm
Venue: WE CARE, 11 Jalan Ubi
SMART is an ongoing closed group & is catered for individuals with a history of addictions. Interested participants are required to undergo a clinical intake before attending SMART Recovery.
If interested, please email to firstname.lastname@example.org